This day was pretty much a total waste.

I didn't pick up a single Lego.

An Aside

I know the whole point of NaBloPoMo is to get better at writing and blogging. I'm not using it for that. I'm using it to get in the habit of thinking about what I would say if I had my own forum, and then going on to say it.

This is why there were five comments that were awaiting moderation because I forgot that I even had comments on moderation. I apologize, y'all.

One of my problems with blogging is I come up with my best ideas when I'm driving. There's never any way to remember or remind myself what I was so passionate about while I was looking through the windshield. When I'm driving my big-ass truck, I keep a pen and pad in the convenient little area on the dash. What I write there is often subject to interpretation, because I'm usually hauling the oven, and bouncing all over the road. It is usually confined to things I forgot to bring to an event, like onions or change--both very critical in the pizza business. So, a pad is not really the best solution. I can talk to my phone, but it's a sad fact that I have plenty of notes in my phone naming books, articles or websites that I heard about on the radio...none of which I've ever read.

Another problem is I need large amounts of uninterrupted time to write like I used to do when I was younger. There are so many factors that contribute to not having those blocks of time. I make my own schedule, so I could do it. But I have to be in the right state of mind to write well, and focus on a subject the way I would l like to. So it's not like I can suddenly notice my afternoon is free and pump out a mind-blowing essay. I have to be in the mood. That's usually when I'm driving, or before bed.

But there's hope, Bored Friends. After today, no more boring blog posts. Now that the babies have gone home, I get to reboot everything, refocus my intentions, and start over. After I pick up the Legos. Tomorrow.

Amazin' 'Maters

The little boys and I got out in the yard today. Spencer wanted to dig for worms, so I handed him the spade and pointed to the garden. He couldn't find any. It's in the 60s today, and the ground is still pretty dry, so I'm sure they're hiding down where the conditions are worm friendly and beyond the reach of the average 6-year-old.

While we were out there, I noticed there were still hundreds of green and red tomatoes on this tomato plant that I completely ignored after I tried to nurse it through the drought and finally got too busy. The boys helped me pick some. Fin was the only one brave enough to eat one with me.

From Cool Fiz

Jack liked to find the flawed ones.

From Cool Fiz

Spencer liked pulling them off by the handful.

From Cool Fiz

Fin really didn't like his 'mater, but at least he gave it a try!

Grandchildren

The grandchildren are visiting for the weekend, along with their parents. It has already been an exciting evening, wherein the youngest got himself stuck in the dark in a back bedroom and couldn't find the door, the middle puked all over his bed, and the oldest smacked me right between the eyes with a hard piece of metal.

They've only been here 2 hours.

I love these little guys. I've been looking forward to seeing them all week long. It has been a lot of months since they were here. We measured their height on the door last time and I can already tell Spencer is 1/4" taller. Jack has more words, and Fin is the most lively 13-month-old I've ever seen. It's Boys Town around here!

Of course, I'm thrilled to see Jake and Mandy, too. I'm proud of both of them.

Miscellany

A list of things that have flitted or wended their way through my mind lately:

*Should I trade in my oven for a fully enclosed model?

*In two days I won't have any "children" at home. Everyone in my house will be legal adults.

*Next year, I'll have been a parent for 30 years.

*I feel really cozy and safe when I sleep in the Element.

*30 years is a long time.

*Really hate coffee shops who don't know what real tea is.

*Mystic Chai from Sam's is not good enough for a coffee shop that proudly displays "Barista" Certificates of Training.

*I think I should write a letter about it.

*I think I could really get into the flea market business.

*My grandfather used to take me to Maxwell Street in Chicago.

*People are friendly if you're friendly first, and give them an opportunity to help.

*It's really, really dry in Texas. Even though it rained on me while I was there.

*I wish we had Texas speed limits in Arkansas.

*It's pretty stupid to drive a Texas speed limit on some Arkansas roads.

*That's probably why we don't have Texas speed limits.

*I didn't know there were race riots in Tulsa in 1921. Apparently it was pretty hush-hush for a long time.

*That squeak in the dash of the Element is extremely annoying. Wonder how much that's going to cost to get fixed?

*I forgot Heather's birthday. She understands.

*I wonder how long it would take to get all the bike stuff ready to take to the flea market?

*Most boring blog post ever.

*Could make some of them interesting, though.

What Else Changed?

Not only am I the mother of three sons (in a row!), I also became, since that last post in 2009, a grandmother to three boys in a row!

I am continually amazed by it. My parents have 3 kids, 6 grandkids, and 6 great-grandkids, all but 3 of whom are boys. My family name was in grave danger of dying out. If not for my eldest brother's only son producing two more boys, that branch on the family tree would have withered and died. Now we repeat the process with his kids, but they're still toddlers. And, the world is changing. Who knows if their future partners would be interested in taking on their last name? Who knows if they'll ever marry? It's not that it is so important to keep a name, but it sure is easier keeping up with the genealogy.

I am particularly attached to the last name I was given at birth, which was my father's last name. In 1962, I don't believe there were too many WASPy folks defying that convention. Part of the reason I am attached to it is because I have willingly and somewhat regretfully changed my last name twice in that same tradition. I like to go along to get along. Sometimes. It just wasn't a hill I wanted to die on. I became more attached to it as I got older because it became obvious it was all riding on that one dear nephew of mine. I gave it to one of my kids, as his first name. He doesn't like it. It's not a horrible first name, actually. He just liked his middle name better, and that was the one we were always going to call him, anyway.

I've asked him once or twice if he would have liked it better if I had just kept my last name when I married my partner, and then he could have been named (Current Middle Name) (My Last Name) (Dad's Last Name). He thinks that is an insane idea. He wouldn't have, had I done it, though. It would have been all he'd ever known. I wish I had.

Back to all those boys: Not only am I amazed at how many boys there are, but also at how much I like it. I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to buy little pink dresses, and deal with the emotional output of an estrogen laden baby girl. Sometimes I see a mom and her daughter with their heads together, whispering, confiding, and I feel a little pang of loneliness. But it could very well be that a girl in this family would be the rough and tumble sort, and my learning curve would just be a speed-bump. I was never in close confidence with my mother, so this may be just be a fantasy I cooked up. For sure it points to a general real-life loneliness that I can't seem to shake.

So ya, there are lots of boys around here. That's old news and new news!

When Reticula said she would try to write one blog post every day this month, but didn't think she'd do it, it got me wondering. This old, neglected blog has been just sitting out there on the back burner, while lots of things have changed in the meantime.

First of all, I need to get rid of that old picture of me by my bike. I haven't been on a bike in over a year. Sad, but true. It's not that I don't want to...well, yes it IS because I don't want to, or I want to less than I want to do other things. You see, I became a grown up. Or something. I just don't have time.

I started a business in 2010. No, it's not a mail order business or a work from home scam stuffing envelopes, or WORSE, putting together little crosses made of nails for half a cent each and sending them to be sold at the Jesus Junk Store in Branson for 5 dollars. Nope, it's an actual business. A Limited Liability Company. With equipment, tax returns, and a business license.

That first year was rough. Never mind the fact that I wasn't quite finished with some of my volunteer work that I had been extricating myself from for a while, or that it's pretty hard to stay on track with your business when your partner is having surgery after surgery after surgery all summer long.

Nope, it was the doubt. It was the huge sense of having made a mistake, of having rushed in. It was the extremely steep learning curve, which kept turning out to be a false peak. I'd get to the top and there was that little dip, with the hidden ascent staring down at me. The same kind of thing I encountered riding my bike on the road to Cerrillos, NM. Giant walls of rock on your left and right have a way of obscuring the view. I didn't know what I didn't know.

It scared me to death.

Luckily, I no longer walk around muttering, "I'm not cut out for this." No, I left that behind about 6 months ago. I don't know what the turning point was. Maybe I started making a little money (it doesn't show, yet). Maybe I gained some confidence from having repeat business. Maybe it was that I randomly ran across a video that said to take the bowl scraper out of the mixer about half way through. It makes the dough come out much much smoother, and that has made all the difference.

Money, perseverance, and luck. That's all it takes. Simple.

Tomorrow I'll write about what else has changed since the last blog post.